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This sounds like a silly subject to talk about in a marriage blog. But trust me, you will see why it is so important. So here is a little treat to warm your heart, just like soup does when you have a cold! Even Jesus-Christ taught that we must love one another as much as we love ourselves. I am not trying to impose Christianity onto anyone, but I want to analyze those words. Can you say you love your spouse as much as you love yourself? Most people answer that question as: "I love my spouse more than I love myself." So, how does this work and why is it so important to love ourselves?
In the everyday world we have so many things to take care of that sometimes we forget to take care of ourselves. Work, family, finances, school, and other subjects occupy our minds and our hearts. Let’s compare ourselves with a sword. A sword can be mighty powerful if it is sharp but if the sword is overused the edge will eventually dull. Once the sword is dull there is no use for it, unless of course you sharpen it again. We need to get “sharpened” every once in a while, or we will not be able to function in our relationships.
How can we REALLY learn to love ourselves when all we see around us is a bunch of ads with perfect women or men? First of all, self-esteem has to come from the inside out, not all the way around. It has to come from our heart, our mind, and our soul. Achieving such a thing is not easy, regardless of gender. We are bombarded everyday with adds for weight loss, hair loss, “male member” enhancers, and so many other products that are there to “help” us become “perfect.” Once Cindy Crawford saw one of her pictures after being filtered with light, airbrushed, and altered though photo shop, and said “Wow, I wish I looked like Cindy Crawford.”
Our society is modeled by the media. If we constantly compare ourselves with a bunch of pictures enhanced, and altered to the point of not being human anymore, we will defiantly get down on ourselves and even depressed for not being able to achieve such looks. Bone structure, height, genes, hormones, among others, dictate our body type. We can always strive for a healthy life-style.
It is very important to have a healthy life-style. Having a healthy diet, working out in whatever type sport you want, and keeping up with vitamins and a Dr. check ups when necessary won’t hurt anybody, quite the opposite. Part of having a high self esteem is being healthy.
What do you see in the mirror every time you look at yourself?
Are you tired?
Are you happy?
Are you sad?
What do you feel when you see yourself in the mirror?
When you see your reflection: you see your emotions, looks, the true you. So try this: Next time you see yourself in the mirror, SMILE! Be kind to yourself, think how unique you are, there is nobody like you. Look at how beautifully human you are. Nobody is perfect, so cut yourself some slack! Remember how much you are worth, not because someone told you but because you are YOU!
Want to feel better about yourself? Today is a good day to start doing that which will help you feel better. Remember you are beautiful, or handsome. Did you know that the true “IT” thing that people like Marilyn Monroe, Elizabeth Taylor, Harrison Ford, etc. have or had is more of a personality trait than just looks? So get yourself some “IT”. Men love women who are sure of themselves. Nothing is more of a turn on than a woman who is comfortable being who she truly is. At the same time, nothing attracts women more than men who are sure of themselves. Looks go to the back burner when someone has that “IT” factor.
Think about it. Have you ever met someone who is quite popular with the ladies but is not THAT good looking? Or how about that girl that enters a room, and makes that room hers, even though she is no Barbie? People are truly attracted to personalities.
SMILE! You are beautiful and unique. You are yourself, you have the pleasure of being yourself. You and only you hold the key to change yourself into whatever you want to be. It is never too late to start getting to know yourself.
The most beautiful thing is that in a marriage you get to be your partners #1 fan. You have an opportunity to help your partner become all he or she can be.Be careful with constructive criticism; remember you are still criticizing their person. See your partner with the eyes of everlasting love. Once you have achieved seeing your partner with everlasting love, you will be able to let go all those little things, and focus in a beautiful relationship. Your partner is human, he or she has flaws, but so do you. Learning how to improve yourself and your marriage, is also something you must see with everlasting love.
Don’t look outside the door for something you already have inside. It is a waste of your time, because what you want is already inside waiting for you. Remember the grass isn't greener in the other side.
Once you have achieved loving yourself for who you are, you will realize how much easier is accepting everyone else. Remember you are human, and so is your partner, so take an opportunity to look back and enjoy what you two have. Everybody has flaws, but to look over them and improve, that is a success.
“I wish I could show you, When you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being.” ~Hafiz
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