XOXO Foreplay XOXO

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Sometimes for any reason our expectations about sex are not achieved. For women as well as for men, sex in the media is portrayed completely different than what it really is. The reason why we are addressing this subject is because the media has changed the expectations of sex. According to the media, man can expect to have a "quickie" almost anywhere with anyone at anytime.

According to the media, men can find an eager woman or more than one sexy lady to have sex with in the elevator, in the office, at the parking lot, and even in a phone booth. For the men in those ads having the right beer or alcoholic drink will get the sexy ladies and deliver them right into their arms. In those cases the sex is so impersonal that names are optional. For women on the other hand, sex is portrayed as a romantic encounter. Maybe a picture of a dining table, a glass of wine, roses, candlelit room and the moon shining right over them. These advertisements for women are completely opposite to their male counterparts. Sex is personal, soft, and very romantic.

The importance of addressing this issue is because those ads have changed the expectations about sex from how sex truly is. A famous porn star said one time "Sex in those movies is not real; making one scene can take up to 3 to 4 hours. After filming these movies we all go back to our normal lives, have a normal dinner like everyone else, and have normal sex with our partners, which is nothing like the sex encounters we portrayed in the movies we make."

Foreplay sometimes is taken for granted. Don't get me wrong sometimes having a "quickie" can be as hot as it gets, but you can't have a "wham-bam-thank-you-mam" every time. When you have time, you want to make is as great as possible and make those orgasms so strong that you are left light headed and seeing stars. Here are some amazing ideas for foreplay.

1. Making Out
            If you like making out here is a simple thing to try that will leave you aching for some hot action: Kiss your partner for 5 minutes; you cannot touch each under the belt. You can get as close to each other as you wish but remember hands above the belt! By the time those 5 minutes are up, you will be dying for more.

2.  Smell Good
            Smelling good will always go a long way. A bad smell can turn your partner off, so maybe have a piece of gum, or brush your teeth right before you have sex. Make sure if you need some deodorant use it. DO NOT OVER DO IT and put too much cologne or perfume on you want to entice your partner not suffocate them. Just wear enough to be pleasant to the nose! You can blow your partners mind, and creating long lasting scent memories (meaning that every time your partner smells something similar to the scent you were wearing they will be taken back to the moment of orgasm, and the rush it gave them).

3. Showers
            If you feel like you have had a long day and need a shower, do it with your partner. Showers can be especially hot. There is nothing like lathered up soapy bodies rubbing against each other. It can be quite a turn on and will get both partners ready to go!

4. Food
            Food can be tricky. You have to make sure sugary liquids do not actually get into the vagina, or your partner will be at risk for a MAJOR yeast infection. You can use whipped cream with strawberries, or possibly pour some chocolate syrup all over their body and lick it off. Just be careful it does not get inside. I have heard some women say popsicles are good to use as dildos. This is a bad idea, the sugar in popsicles can cause a nasty yeast infections. If you would like a cold sexy surprise, the best idea would be to get a glass dildo and put it in the fridge for a while.  Be sure and have fun, but as always be careful.

5. Sexy Dance
            Someone once said girls go to a night club to dance and get attention, guys go to a night club to get a girl. A sensual dance for your partner can be super sexy. It can actually make two fantasies come true. For instance it could satisfy that hidden voyeur fantasy of one partner, due to the fact that he/she can watch as much as he/she wants. The other fantasy it can satisfy is exhibitionism, by showing his/her body and exposing it all. Since you are with your partner, there are no other people to judge you or to make you feel embarrassed. So go ahead, a nice strip tease will go a long way to get you both in the mood.

6. Sexy text messages.
            Before you or your partner gets home be sure to set the mood for later on. Texting is so big easy now that when you do it with sexual purposes is called "sexting." You can always start sexting each other about what would you like to do to each other later on.

7. Phone sex. 
            Make sure that when you talk to each other you are not close to anybody, especially in your office because it could and probably would be considered sexual harassment. You can call your lover a little while before you get together and tell him or her how much you want to see him or her. If you are away on a trip, you can always talk to each other and think what you both would do if you were together. It can get pretty hot!!!

8. Sexy secrets
            For most people the ears are considered and erogenous zone. By whispering your sexy secrets and fantasies into your partners ear, you are sending really strong messages to your partners brain. Some types of secrets to share may be how much you want your partner, things you would like to do to him/her, and other sexy little words you can quickly get the ball rolling towards a night you will never forget. Dry humping while talking to each other will probably happen and definitely is allowed!

9. Flirting
            Flirting can be pretty hot. Remember when you started dating and even looking into each other’s eyes would make you feel butterflies in your stomach? Well, flirting is never over rated. You can go for a walk, have dinner, or whatever you want and flirt. You can be as flirty as you want, and you can even be a tease. That will build some sexy steam up!

10. Massage
            Sometimes we are so stressed we need some relief from our every days lives, at these times a nice massage will do wonders. In my many years of marriage I have learned that a sexy massage can be so relaxing as well as exciting. Make sure you tell your partner you would like to do some stuff later, or he or she might fall asleep! A nice massage can be the doorway to some steamy action!


11. Porn
            Last but not least we come to porn. There are a couple things you need to be sure of before you bring that idea up. First, you need to be sure that both partners are OK with watching it; its not worth starting a fight over. Remember that you want to build up for sex, not to have a fight and sleep on the couch! The biggest turn on about it is that you get to see what your partner likes, and you get to show off what you like. When the women choose what kind and which one would they like to watch it is a huge turn on for the guys, as the girls are letting them into their minds and sharing what turns them on. I suggest that you let your partner pick what kind and which movie/pics/whatever you are going to watch, that way it doesn't come across as if you want to watch porn no matter what. Remember communication is the key.

Well, here are some ideas we came up with, but I am sure you can come up with so many more on your own. Remember that ladies do need foreplay in order to be ready for more exciting orgasms. The female body NEEDS to be ready or it won’t be a pleasant experience. So go forth and love your partner and show how much you love him or her by making love. Communication is the key. and remember that sex in marriage always needs to be NONJUDGMENTAL, this will build the trust and honesty that will make a marriage last.